Amidst the peak of her career and life, Selena Gomez admits that she still finds it difficult to enjoy happiness because she fears that all good things will pass too quickly.
Selena Gomez spoke at Fortune’s Most Powerful Women 2025 in Washington – Photo: Getty Images During a talk at Fortune’s Most Powerful Women 2025 conference ,Selena Gomez openly shares her fear of facing happiness, and reveals valuable advice from close friend Taylor Swift that helped her learn to be stronger in both work and life.
‘I got married and cried’
Speaking at Fortune’s Most Powerful Women Summit in Laguna Niguel, California, selena gomez silenced the audience when she shared that she burst into tears right after her wedding.
“I got married and then I cried my eyes out, thinking I was going to die the next day,” the singer said.
“I often feel anxious when things are going well, as if happiness is just a fleeting moment,” Selena Gomez confided – Screenshot
Selena Gomez explained that the feeling came from the fear that “the joy would disappear”, which made it difficult for her to fully enjoy happiness in life – Screenshot
This is the first time the 32-year-old singer has publicly shared her feelings after her private wedding to music producer Benny Blanco. The couple confirmed their relationship in late 2023 and had a secret wedding in the summer of 2025.
Selena Gomez’s statement quickly went viral on social networks, attracting sympathy from the audience.
Many people believe that the feeling of “fear of losing joy” is very real in modern life, especially for those who have experienced depression or the pressure of being famous like her.
Selena Gomez has publicly struggled with bipolar disorder and depression, and says treatment has helped her understand herself better, but it’s still difficult to “keep peace” with joy: “I’m learning to enjoy every moment without letting fear control me.”
Selena Gomez Gets Advice From Taylor Swift
Also in an interview with Fortune, Selena Gomez revealed that her longtime friend Taylor Swift once gave her a piece of advice that changed the way she viewed her career: “If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong place.”
Gomez said she always kept that saying in mind during her journey to build her beauty brand Rare Beauty: “I want to be surrounded by people who are better than me, people who make me learn every day.”
According to Selena Gomez, Taylor Swift’s advice applies not only in business but also in personal life: “Sometimes, we are afraid of failure or being judged. But if we only stay in our comfort zone, we will never progress” – Photo: ELLE
Rare Beauty is a cosmetics brand founded by Selena Gomez in 2020, currently considered one of the most influential young brands in the industry – Photo: Rare Beauty
Instead of focusing solely on revenue, Selena Gomez positions Rare Beauty as a project with a positive message, promoting mental health and confidence for women.
Taylor Swift’s advice seems to be the guiding principle that helps Selena Gomez stay open-minded and learn, even after achieving great success.
“I don’t want to be the best person in the room, I want to be the one who is still learning,” she said.
From fear of happiness to her journey to finding balance, Selena Gomez shows she’s still on the path to healing.
Her story at the Fortune Summit is not just about fame, but also a reminder that growth sometimes begins with daring to admit your own fears.
